It's an early Monday morning, all quiet except for you and one or two other early birds. Then, he's there, in your doorway. That one team member. Again. Closing the door. Again. Angry about another team member's slight. Again.
As the supervisor, what is there to do with this kind of direct report, who is always creating interpersonal relationship drama with co-workers, always "playing office politics," yet otherwise so highly skilled on the job that you're loathe to cut him loose. Have you supervised this person--man or woman, young or old?
"Anybody can become angry--that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way--that is not within everybody's power and is not easy." ~~Aristotle
Helping team members achieve Aristotle's approach to anger means helping them with the Team Facet of Independence. This flash of brighness in your team comes from the development of healthy boundaries by every team member, including you. Boundaries contain our emotions and thoughts, separate them from others' emotions and thoughts, just as our skin separates us from everything else in the universe. An emotional "skin" helps us respond to others' behavior, rather than react from unhealthy and unhelpful emotions that are too young for an adult workplace.
The 7 Facets of Team Success build boundaries in your team, along with a stronger capacity for trusting the team and its members and other assets. Team 911 workshops and Team FLASH! customized solutions will change the face of your workplace, and remove barriers to productivity.
Meanwhile, what to do with "That One" team member this Monday morning?
Take a Reality Check:
None of us can help it. We all create stories about what is happening to us, pulling evidence from the physical reality around us. Sensory input comes into the brain in wave after wave of signals. Each of us can only select a few of those signals, and can only interpret them based on past experience and internalized beliefs about "how things work in the world." Without the boundary of an emotional skin, all kinds of stories are created out of those few signals. Unfortunately, most of them arise from our early relationships with our families, rather than any real-time events.
Preserve your peaceful early mornings, with new tools for That One team member. Call for a free Team 911 Lunch and Learn today!